The soul-sucking, mood-dampening, eye-roll-inducing behavior impacts your personal and professional life and can chip away at your own self-esteem. If you try to help, you’re attacking a victim. If you passively accept it, you’re stuck in their rut. If you try to cut them off, you’ve victimized a victim. Allow yourself one good scream at the top of your lungs, and let’s dive into some strategies to help you and them....
Maybe your friendship ended because of betrayal and hurt feelings. Or perhaps one of you moved away, and the distance has taken a toll on your once-close connection. Losing a friend is painful, no matter what the reason – especially a friend you’ve known and loved for years. If you’re looking for a lost friend poem that speaks to your feelings and pain, look no further than our collection below....
Were you aware at the time of why you used them? Or were you just saying something you thought was funny? For that matter, why do we ever use hurtful words to describe someone? Maybe we take some pleasure in finding a particularly apt insult for someone who has wronged us. And we enjoy feeling superior, even a little bit, to someone who has made us feel smaller, less important, or less intelligent....
You want to engage in conversation if only to be polite, but you feel too shy, tongue-tied, or just at a complete loss for something intelligent to say. Or you simply can’t muster up any conversation topics to talk about. So you stand there shuffling your feet, looking anywhere but at the other person (or people), praying you’ll be magically teleported out of the room. Mastering the skill of good conversation provides immediate positive results and gives you a sense of self-assurance....
You’ve seen tattoos on other people that make you jealous, and you’re thinking, “I’m ready!” Even better, your partner is all in. They want to do this with you. Once you find the perfect tattoo designs and the perfect tattoo artist, you’re setting an appointment and researching tattoo after-care. It’s time to stock up on Aquafor. You’re going to love the couples’ tattoo ideas we picked out for you. (Side note: What if your spouse or partner knew exactly what to ask to draw out your deepest desires and help you calmly navigate areas of pain or conflict?...
But it’s still too easy to get stuck in a life that doesn’t come close to the one you wanted. And you tell yourself you’re just being realistic and making the best of things. But at some point, you recognize it’s not enough. You don’t want to look back on your life with regret. Life is for the living, and you should seize every adventure and opportunity you can. Don’t settle for boring — get out there and really live!...
Every time you look at your vision board, you feel inspired to take action. Why not invite others to a group vision board party where they can make their own? How different could their lives be a year or three down the road because they attended your vision board party? This could be a game-changer for them — and for you. Maybe throwing parties isn’t usually your thing. But this is well worth the challenge....
Whether the breakup was a surprise or not, letting go of your ex and preparing yourself for a life without them may be the hardest thing you’ve ever done. It’s normal to wonder how to move on from the love of your life, however, you lost them. You’re not alone. And you can move on. Read on to learn how. How to Move on From An Ex: 13 Ideas to Make It Less Painful This post is for all who are asking themselves, “Why can’t I move on from my ex?...
Knowing that, isn’t it uncanny how we have a knack for believing all of the thoughts that run through our heads? And here’s why that’s a bad thing: Repetitive thoughts nourish feelings.Repetitive negative thoughts nourish negative feelings.Negative feelings can morph into unpleasant physical and emotional ailments and unhealthy behaviors. But let’s back up for a minute to the thoughts themselves. Most of our negative thoughts aren’t grounded in reality. They are either only partially true or not true at all....
Perhaps some of the dysfunction in my family when I was a child led me to search for answers and coping skills. But I also know I’m naturally inclined to be a seeker and a learner. I like reading personal growth books, listening to motivational speakers, and taking self-assessments. I also really enjoy taking time every year to define the kind of person I want to be, the lifestyle I want, the way I choose to relate to others, and the work that’s important to me....
If something is going on in my life that’s difficult or painful, I have to talk about it with someone. Talking about it helps me to process the situation, and it relieves the tension and anxiety that comes with ruminating. I’m not always looking for a solution from the other person. Sometimes I just need a listening ear so I can unpack all of the emotions and gain more clarity about the problem....
When you’re around her, you feel worse about yourself. She refuses to see things from your perspective. You’re always in the wrong — and she’s always the victim. If you find yourself thinking, “My mother-in-law manipulates my husband and kids,” it’s not really about you. She has to get her way, whatever it takes. So, what are the signs she’s emotionally manipulative? And what can you do about it?...
“Don’t be such a crybaby!” “I was just kidding — don’t take things so seriously.” “You are way too sensitive. Get over it.” If you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP) like me, you’ve probably felt “different” all of your life. While friends and family could let things roll off their backs, you suffered internally for hours or days. When others seemed to revel in loud environments with lots of activity and people, you wanted to run away and hide in a quiet place....
All forms of abuse are harmful to a child’s potential, but physical abuse and neglect often require intervention from local authorities. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is typically harder to detect. According to most clinicians and researchers, emotional abuse is an ongoing form of abuse based on power and control. It also tends to include one or more of the following characteristics: Emotional abuse may even continue from childhood to adulthood. Over time, the abuse takes its toll on your well-being and relationships....
And however much the truth of your situation might hurt, you need to know. Maybe you’ve asked yourself, “Is my boyfriend bisexual? Or is he even into me at all?” Because, as far as you can tell, he doesn’t look at you the same way you look at him. It’s time to get some answers. Why Do I Feel Like My Boyfriend’s Gay? You’ve been picking up little hints along the way that your boyfriend may not be as into you — or women in general — as you thought he was....
After all, you know you love them. It’s just not always easy to articulate why. At some point, though, the one you love is bound to be curious as to why you love them. And when they ask, you want a good answer — one that’s true as well as satisfying. To help you in this, we’ve created a reasons why I love you list. Look through it to find the reasons that best fit your love and the unique relationship you have....
You don’t hate her; it’s just that she’s always around, or always offering problematic advice, or always butting in where she doesn’t belong. Basically, she’s the human embodiment of nosey, overbearing, passive-aggressive judgment. So today, we’re looking at setting boundaries with in-laws. Why is it a good idea? What parameters make sense? And how should you go about doing it? Let’s dive in. What Are Healthy Boundaries with Your In-Laws?...
You may not think the narcissist in your life has a mental illness. But according to the Mayo Clinic, Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental condition and one of several types of personality disorders that cause relationship challenges. When one person has this disorder in a relationship, it can wreak havoc on both partners involved and ruin any chance for intimacy and trust to develop. Greek mythology tells us the story of Narcissus and Echo whose tragic relationship shows how both partners in a relationship involving a narcissist can be locked into a painful drama where neither are content or feel loved....
You don’t want to rely on stereotypical “guy talk” go-to’s. But you’re not sure exactly what will hold his attention and get a real conversation going. Good thing the list in this post gives you plenty of ideas on what to talk about with a guy whose company and conversation you enjoy. What Do Men Like to Talk About? Being human and all — and having interests as varied as any other gender — men can find plenty of things to talk about....
You feel horrible and don’t want to lose the person you love, but you know you’ll have work hard to rebuild trust. Maybe it was too many small lies (“I swear I didn’t leave those dishes in the sink!”), or maybe it was a whopper (“It was totally innocent. We were just talking!”). But after a series of small untruths or one earth-shattering betrayal, you’re wondering how to rebuild trust in a marriage after lying to the one person you don’t want to hurt....
