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But as you’ve likely learned, love relationships are complicated and messy. Sometimes you can clean up the mess and move on happily, but there are times you need to learn how to let go of a relationship. Of course, it’s important to try to heal the relationship problem before letting go of love. Maybe your mantra has always been, “We can work it out.” But sometimes, “working it out” means acquiescing, stuffing your true feelings, or tolerating things that deep inside you don’t want to tolerate....

You’re not alone. Just looking through condolence cards at a local store is unlikely to help you find just what you’re looking for to express the complex emotions of grief and loss. I mean, it could happen. It just probably won’t. You don’t want to read dozens of variations on “We’re so sorry about your loss.” You want something that makes you think, “Finally… someone gets it.” The poets featured in this post clearly understand what you’re going through....

It feels like they don’t want anything to do with you, even though they haven’t outright said it. And it’s even harder to figure out if you’re right about these intuitions. But what if there were signs that could tell you for sure whether or not people actually like you? Signs that would put your mind at ease and let you know where you stand with the people around you?...

Every time you see them or interact with them, you’re reminded of why you set them apart. Getting over someone you work with can be even more complicated. Not everyone has the luxury of switching jobs. But if you’re one of the many who don’t, there are still some things you can do to help yourself move on. How to Get Over Someone You See Every Day So, how do you get over a girl you see every day?...

No matter how many friends you’ve made or how well you get along with family, you’re just one of those people who prefer to be alone. And you feel perfectly healthy. You’re content. But were you always this way? And if not, what reasons for your solitary nature come to mind? We found 15 worth considering. Is It Normal To Want To Be Alone? What do you call someone who enjoys being alone?...

The common response? “Well, of course, you matter! Stop being so dramatic.” And just like that, they’ve invalidated your feelings (with the best intentions) and left you feeling more alone than ever. If you’re wondering, “How do I know if I matter?” we’re glad you’re here. We know the feeling well — so well, in fact, that we’ve collected 15 answers to that question. And unlike those intrusive thoughts, all of them are true....

A surprising number of people say that they have had a relationship limited to casual sex — with no room for emotional connection. Nevertheless, FWB relationships are notoriously difficult to navigate. Sexual intimacy can open the door to emotional intimacy, and it can be confusing to disentangle those feelings. Here is some background on these types of relationships and the top signs you’re more than friends with benefits. Overview of a Friends With Benefits (FWB) Relationship So what is an FWB relationship, and what are the official “rules” for one?...

Or, is your long-term relationship starting to feel tense? Part of the problem could be that you don’t know how to treat a woman in a loving way. Too many men make the mistake of putting in the bare minimum and then wondering why she’s dissatisfied. You need to pay attention to your behavior and the words you use to learn how to treat a woman like a queen....

Scientists have yet to uncover a definitive, formulaic answer. After all, everyone is different, and people are drawn to disparate things. But over centuries, women have perfected the art of seduction — and it works on many of the male persuasion. And to be clear, seduction needn’t be sexual. It’s also an emotional pursuit. So today, we’re giving a free lesson on how to create an emotional bond with a man to forge a deeper intimacy....

What qualities should you cultivate if you want to be stronger? You recognize strength in others. You’ve seen how they operate and what makes them stand out. But when you ask yourself, “Am I strong?” you’re just not sure. Let’s start by asking what it even means to be strong. Then read on to learn about 23 characteristics shared by mentally strong people. What Does It Mean to Be a Strong Person?...

You fell in love with a platonic friend, and now you’re ready to express your expanding feelings. There’s only one problem: You’re not a wordsmith. The last poem you wrote was on a first-grade Valentine for Mom. Sure, she may have kept it on the fridge for over 20 years, but Keats, Yeats, or Cummings you are not. Fear not! This is where we swoop in and save the day with a curated list of 25 friends to lover poems....

You’re looking for guidance on how to long-distance date. You want to show your sweetheart that the distance has only given you the chance to show your love in new, creative ways. In this post, you’ll find 29 long-distance date ideas that will make date night worth looking forward to — and worth savoring hours afterward. 29 Long-Distance Date Ideas Whether your dates happen during the day or at night, you’ll find creative, romantic, and budget-friendly ideas here to make your dates as memorable as when you’re together....

And yet, we often find ways to make ourselves miserable, and then we wonder why we catch every bug that’s going around. It’s no longer a leap to see the connection between our emotions and our physical (as well as mental) health. In essence, the more time we spend with positive emotions that are in congruence with our core truth, the healthier we are. And because what we feel is tied to what we believe and to the words we use to express those beliefs, we can make more room for positive feelings by eliminating the beliefs and the language that are hostile to them....

Qualitatively speaking, it’s not about how much money you have or your rung on the social ladder. Instead, a person’s character is the determiner. One’s capacity for compassion, kindness, and emotional generosity says leagues about an individual than their socio-material status. In our hyper-commodified culture, it’s a truth too frequently forgotten and ignored. So if you want to get back to basics, try doing some “quote therapy” with sayings about character....

We don’t rate high on the “good enough” scale. We’re flawed, while everyone else seems to be more than enough. Or at least more than us. Maybe we look in the mirror and don’t see perfection staring back at us. Perhaps we were passed over for that job promotion and feel certain it’s because we lack something essential. Or it could be that we have a general condition of unworthiness....

It’s also frustrating, demeaning, and not something to brush under the rug. Unaddressed accusations can also lead you down a rough mental health road and even trigger the development of certain psychological disorders. Is your partner always wagging their fingers over things you didn’t do? Today, we’re breaking down the psychology of false accusations and what to do about them. Are False Allegations a Form of Emotional Abuse? In recent decades, societal norms have come a long way regarding mental health issues, causes, and treatments — which is a net positive on micro and macro levels....

It’s not that you deliberately try to hurt or alienate people. You just prefer your own company most of the time. You’re fully capable of being pleasant around people when you have to be. That’s not to say you’re never unpleasant. Sometimes, maybe, you don’t take into account the feelings of others. But who doesn’t do that sometimes, right? Does that mean you’re antisocial or asocial? They’re different. Read on to learn how....

Or would you like to get a quick but accurate sense of someone’s character on the first date? It’s when people are pushed against the wall that you get to see who they really are. But since you can’t really do that on a date without getting arrested or punched, why not try this collection of the best Would You Rather questions for couples instead? So much safer — and still educational!...

You chat up a co-worker or a neighbor or an old classmate on Facebook. A little part of you knows your spouse or committed partner would feel uncomfortable, but you also know there’s nothing to it. Until there is. The stages of emotional affairs are too dangerous to ignore. You start to feel drawn to this person. There’s an undeniable attraction. And you begin sharing things with this person that you shouldn’t be sharing....

It’s a skill that serves not only others, but also one that stretches you to become more loving, compassionate, and patient person. It’s an essential skill to master both for your personal and professional interactions. Maybe you’re a person others naturally seek out in order to share their problems or frustrations. Or maybe you’d like to help someone close to you who has a dilemma and doesn’t know what to do....