If you feel overstimulated and can’t get away for some time alone, bad things happen. And if you’re not an introvert — but you’re close to someone who is — you might not understand why. If being around people energizes rather than drains you, it’s tempting to think introverts are just being “extra.” They’re not. So, what could happen if they don’t get the alone time they need? Just remember — you asked.
Why Do Introverts Need Alone Time?
If you’re an introvert, you know the importance of alone time. Introverts need alone time to process and recharge after socializing. This isn’t to say you can’t be social, but you’re likely to suffer social burnout without time alone time. And that can manifest in distinctly antisocial (or, at least, asocial) behavior. If you’re an extrovert, your introverted friend or relation wanting to be alone is not an indication that they don’t enjoy your company. Solitude is something they need to remain socially and emotionally healthy. It’s a balancing act. And maintaining that balance is critical. You’re about to see why.
What Happens When Introverts Don’t Get Alone Time
Lack of alone time can negatively impact an introvert’s health and well-being. While extroverts feel energetic and recharged during socializing, introverts need to recharge in solitude. The following is what happens when an introvert is overstimulated or socially exhausted.
1. Self-isolation
When an introvert isn’t given their required alone time, they may become desperate and isolate themselves at the first opportunity — and wherever they have room to do so. If they’ve been socializing all day, they aren’t likely to text or call their friends in the evening. If work is taking all of their time and social energy, they won’t be making plans with friends. They won’t risk an emotional melt-down during happy hour. This can hurt relationships and cause others to worry.
2. Lack of Interest in Activities
Alone time isn’t just for recharging the social battery. It’s necessary for emotional regulation. If introverts have been forced to socialize for too long, they become disinterested in activities — especially those involving groups. Going to a friend’s house and playing games for an hour might be fine, but the longer the social activity goes on, the less enjoyable it becomes.
3. Emotional Exhaustion
Remember the part about emotional regulation? If an introvert doesn’t get that, their energy levels deteriorate, leading to mental and emotional (as well as physical) exhaustion. This can lead to feelings of numbness, irritability, or depression. Too much socializing and insufficient alone time is similar to too much work and too little self-care and playtime. Burnout is inevitable. And it can be messy.
4. Physical Signs of an “Introvert Hangover”
Without some much-needed time alone to recharge, the introvert starts shutting down and often experiences physical symptoms. They become more sensitive to noise, touch, light, taste, and other sensory stimuli. Their ears might ring, their skin might react to the slightest touch, and loud noises will make them jumpy or irritable. Everything is just “too much.” And they need a way out.
5. Resentment Towards Friends
Introverts can be very particular about whom they choose to spend their time with. If an introvert chooses you, it means they enjoy your company more than solitude — most times. They value your perspective and appreciate what you bring to their life. It would be a mistake, though, to think they no longer need alone time. If you don’t give them the space they need to recharge, they become irritable and even resentful toward you — even if you’re their favorite person.
6. Decreased Productivity
If an introvert can’t recharge, their productivity suffers, too, leading to missed deadlines, poor-quality work, and even ghosting their boss or coworkers. An overstimulated introvert cannot function at full capacity. Everything in their life will suffer — from relationships to mood to job performance. And the only way to get better is to get away from people for a while and rest.
7. Increased Anxiety
Many introverts experience social anxiety, and this snowballs when their social battery is low. Talking to a waiter may become an impossible task. And just the thought of making a phone call may cause them to pace around the room. An overtaxed introvert is more vulnerable to negative messages from their own heads and from others. Critical thinking takes energy, too. So does getting outside their own heads. Ambivert vs. Omnivert: 7 Key Differences In These Personalities 57 Compassionate Words For Someone Going Through A Divorce 15 Of The Best Ways To Thrive With A Reserved Personality
8. Disturbed Sleep Patterns
Believe it or not, lack of personal time can mess up an introvert’s sleep patterns. Sleep may be low-quality with frequent breaks in the middle of the night. It may also take hours to fall asleep. Sleep deprivation, in turn, will worsen anxiety, mood, and productivity. Time alone gives the introvert their best chance at winding down and getting the sleep they need.
9. Decrease in Motivation
Humans aren’t machines. We aren’t meant to be constantly working without breaks. An extrovert may prefer to spend their free time with friends or colleagues, but an introvert needs alone time to stay motivated. With mental exhaustion comes a lack of drive to keep going. A demotivated and overstimulated introvert may begin to question their motives and plans for the future.
10. Concentration Problems
An introvert with a low social battery may have trouble focusing on the task at hand. Their attention span may be shorter, and they might find themselves zoning out or dissociating. An exhausted introvert is more vulnerable to distractions and less inclined to fight them. It takes energy to concentrate. And no alone time means no (or very low) energy. It makes it all too easy to spend that time shopping online instead — just to feel something good.
11. Social Burnout
Burnout happens when an individual is overworked. With burnout, someone may see a complete halt in productivity, as well as increased stress, anxiety, and depression. The same concept is true for an overstimulated introvert. Without a break from socializing, they will experience complete burnout. And it will show. In short, introverts don’t simply love being alone. They require it.
What Do Introverts Do in Their Free Time?
What can you do with alone time? Surely introverts don’t just sit and do nothing while they recharge in solitude. Actually, sometimes, they do — because they need to. But when they’re not doing nothing, they might be entertaining themselves in one of the following ways:
Reading — Curling up with a good book is an excellent way to re-energize and take care of yourself.Watching TV — A good show or movie is another way to escape from reality while relaxing your mind.Baking — Many people find comfort in baking, and it certainly doesn’t hurt to have something sweet to eat afterward.Going on a walk — Alone time doesn’t always have to be inside. Connecting to nature can be therapeutic and healing.Crafting — Harnessing your creativity is a wonderful way to improve your mood.Writing — Whether it’s poetry, journaling, fiction, or nonfiction, writing is a perfect way to channel your thoughts and emotions.
Are you getting enough alone time?
If you’re an introvert, don’t feel bad about advocating for alone time. You’re not selfish — at least not in a bad way. Without recharging, you won’t be able to function at your full capacity. Socializing should not be done at the expense of your mental and emotional health. If you know someone who’s an introvert, encourage them to take some alone time when they need it. It doesn’t mean they enjoy your company any less. A recharged introvert will enjoy it all the more, though.
